So here I go, referencing the topic of unforgiveness. Bear with me – I know that forgiveness is not as easy as it sounds. Master & Lord Jesus reminds us to forgive seventy-seven times (Matthew 18:21-22). That’s a lot of forgiving! It’s one of the most challenging paths to take. Perhaps we think that our offender is getting away with a particular offense. Or, maybe we think that they deserve far more than being forgiven. The truth of the matter is this – forgiveness is not about the offender, it’s about you. Forgiveness in no wise condones offenses – it liberates its victims from further injury.
I’ve watched myself over the years mentally experience, and re-experience a particular painful memory – only to set myself up for an emotional set-back! I’d end up attacking myself with self-injurious words because of someone else’s offense. Unforgiveness is relentless – it’s psychologically destructive. I can remember speaking to someone about the pain that was caused by their behavior – the person had no recollection of what I was talking about! A huge wake-up call for me! I couldn’t believe that I had to walk through the doors of forgiving them without a simple act of human courtesy – an apology.
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” ~Nelson Mandela
Forgiveness is about self-preservation – a way of preserving our sanity and dignity. Forgiveness further gives us the rightful place of ownership, of our emotions and overall well-being.
Forgive – it’s not easy…it’s a process of time – but, your mind, body & spirit will gain a life worthy of its benefit.
What are your challenges with unforgiveness?
You’re welcome to join in the conversation on forgiveness. I welcome your thoughts & insights. Live wise & live well. ~Storm