Someone expressed (written, sung & spoke) such words to me. Words that awakened parts hidden from my view – words that reminded me that I was worth reading…loving. Such a beautiful post.
Has anyone ever
Written words for you,
Words that uncover the truth of
What you think you saw
What you thought you knew,
Pulls off the veil
Leaving you in light?
Has anyone ever sung you a song
Of their heart,
Melody through the ink of the pen
You can hold in your hand?
Has anyone ever touched you
Deep in your heart
With the words you waited so very long
Have you ever thought
That you were so alone,
That no one could possibly think
The same thoughts as you,
That there was something wrong
Inherently with your being,
And did anyone tell you
That your thoughts were all a picture
Drawn so wrong
In your own head,
Art Of your own making
And that you were perfect
Just the way you are?
Did anyone ever give you hope
That tomorrow would be spectacular
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I empathize (not condone) with those who have long forgotten how to live beyond the IMPACT of abuse…further destroying themselves & others in their path. Perhaps it’s too difficult to LET GO of the pain. Such is the case of the young man recently in the news for beating an elderly priest. The priest allegedly abused the young man & his brother during their younger years. The list goes on & on with victims of childhood sexual abuse becoming vigilantes or perpetrators.
While I’ve noticed that many who have been hurt by abuse share similar challenges – shame, feelings of worthlessness or other – our stories are different. Therefore, each individual deserves the right to open up & talk when they are ready to do so.
Healing from childhood trauma takes time, we heal & process differently. Nevertheless, PROLONGED stay in painful memories further creates emotional dis-ease.
It has taken me years of responding to the inner-voice of Divine counsel (Holy Spirit) – becoming aware of myself, accepting myself, flaws and all – that has permitted this soul to experience healing as its reality!!
When I speak of the past I speak of its IMPACT & focus on the process of regaining hope, love, a sense of purpose, healing & forgiveness. I’ve listed numerous resources on this site.
“…With God all things are possible” ~Matthew 19:26 (NIV)
Life without the IMPACT of abuse is POSSIBLE!
Focus on the process of regaining hope…~
You’re welcome to leave your thoughts & insights. Thank you for your visit. Live wise & live well.~Storm
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There are times when it seems that we walk alone, and that no one could possibly understand the pain, shame or condition of our situation. Situations that perhaps make us feel like we were the ones who caused an unpleasant and unwelcoming touch to our bodies. Forced participation, rape – whatever we call it…It’s a violation!!
There are countless individuals who share the same story, different names and different faces.
Many of us have taken our stories a little further by seeking help. Be empowered and call a crisis center if you or someone that you know is being sexually abused. Report the crime to legal officials, seek counsel – make sure that the perpetrator is prosecuted by law in hopes of preventing another violation.
No one has to suffer in silence or alone.~Storm
Let’s join the thunderclap. Raise awareness, raise your voice and stop the violence.
I say no more because for 19 years I didn’t. This silence was a detriment to myself and my family. It is my duty as a survivor to help others realize and understand domestic violence is a cancer that will continue to proliferate and destroy the very fabric of our society.
Why do you say no more?
I’ve wanted to share more insight on my journey of healing & forgiveness, so here goes. As challenging as it can be – healing from childhood abuse is possible. My journey has been one gaining self-awareness, self-acceptance, hope, purpose & self-love.
The impact of childhood abuse held me captive for some number of years. I literally became sick and tired of repeating the words of my childhood experiences to myself & to others…my mouth, my mind, my emotions & my soul needed a new story! I no longer cared why it happened, I just wanted to be released from that story.
I felt that having been abused pasted an obvious message across my face, which read…I was unworthy, I would never amount to anything & that no one would ever see me as anything…but, as an abused person. In truth, this is how I saw myself (the lies created by abuse). I felt ashamed, repulsed & isolated. Then I felt mad…angry & resentful towards my perpetrators…lastly, exhausted & worn out!
The impact from childhood abuse held me captive!
My mouth, my mind, my emotions & my soul needed a new story! Healing has given to me a new story.
Healing is possible! It is indeed possible to live beyond the Impact of childhood abuse.
Are you creating new stories that override the impact of painful childhood memories?
You’re welcome to share your thoughts & insights. Thank you for taking the time to visit Life Through The Storm. Wishing you balance & well-being. ~Storm
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As we learn to trust in His guidance – surrender becomes…being fine-tuned for His specific purpose.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” ~Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
What does surrender mean to you?
You’re always welcome to share your insights & thoughts. Thank you for your visit to Life Through The Storm.
Wishing you balance & well-being. ~Storm
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2 years had passed since our initial encounter, at the church where he served as Senior Pastor. As I sat in his office going over some business matters, wrapping things up was met with, “I’d like to ask you for your hand in friendship”.
I was totally taken by surprise, as no one had ever asked for my hand in anything. Asking for my “hand in friendship” was a wonderful thing to propose. I verbally agreed that I could accept a new friend & extended my hand for a shake. It was met with a warm embrace.
The blessing of a new friendship was timely, as my past 2 years had been spent reestablishing my life’s perspective & putting things in order. Little did I know that he too was in the same frame of experiences.
I liked him from the beginning. A man of conviction & integrity – a true gentleman, opinionated, self-sufficient, educated – the intellectual spiritual sort, not defined by his degrees. Kindhearted, dedicated to his life’s purpose – confident, a good communicator. At the time, I over-looked his physical attributes – attractive & tall. I saw an individual who was as I saw myself – authentic, vulnerable & living in the moment.
Compassion was his mantra, I respected that. Mine was acceptance – he respected that. My initial appreciation, respect & acceptance of him remains intact. I still like him for his unique perspective on life, living & being.
Our friendship was a natural occurrence, birthed out of genuine appreciation & acceptance of one another…flaws & all.
In 2005, he asked for my hand in marriage. He is my best friend, the love of my life, my confidant, partner & husband.
J.V. Steele a very special guest in my life.
The thing that keeps us strong – respect, forgiveness & maintaining an openness to learn from one another…listening & hearing. Additionally, we share lots of knee slapping out of our breath, uncontrollable laughter (I’ve not laughed as much, since I was a child)!
Jim & I honor our individual commitments to our Lord & Savior – Jesus. We are dedicated to growth, development & Divine transformation.
True friendship is treasure, rare find – my life is especially blessed to be adorned by such.
Thank you for your visit to Life Through The Storm
Live wise & live well.~Storm
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I’ve learned the value of embracing the offering & wonder of each day’s turn. Each day is a part of the “process”…filled with all the necessary components to complete whatsoever stands in need of completion.
Accepting & trusting the provision of each day’s turn…is daily bread. His grace is always sufficient.
“Give us this day our daily bread.” ~Matthew 6:11 (NASB)
Are you acknowledging the provision within each day’s turn? In what ways?
You’re always welcome to share your thoughts & insights. Thank you for your visit to Life Through The Storm.
Wishing you balance & well-being. ~Storm
There’s no question about it, many of us want healthy, respectful and meaningful relationships. We want passion, excitement and a sense of togetherness! We offer the best presentation of who we are when meeting a potential partner – no less warranted as our interaction continues.
The passion that we seek within our relationships can last a life time, it merely burns differently. A simmering fire occurs as we become practitioners of lessons learned. Personal and spiritual development is a constant in healthy relationships.
“A wise man/woman will hear and increase in learning; a man of understanding shall shall acquire wise counsel.” ~Proverbs 1:5 (NASB)
As we adhere to insight, applying its dictates – we bring into our lives an offering that impacts all of our life’s affairs. Without ardent regard for insight and her assistants – counsel, instruction, wisdom, understanding, etc – we bind ourselves and our relationships needlessly into cycles that hinder the very thing that we seek to establish…healthier and meaningful relationships.
Jim (my husband) and I have individual commitments that we adhere to on a daily basis (prayer, meditation, reading of scripture, etc.) – personal accountability. We each examine our thoughts, our beliefs and pay attention to how life impacts our emotions. It is in this way that we’ve learned to separate personal stuff from relational stuff. Additionally, we honor the path that we consider ourselves blessed to have created together. We define our union as a healthy relationship, not a perfect one.
“Counsel in the heart of man/woman is like deep water, but a man/woman of understanding will draw it out.” ~Proverbs 20:5 (KJV)
I am sure that you are very much aware of relational building tips, I’ve included a few more:
Asking our loved ones to alter their convictions or their personal philosophies for our comfort is a set-up for a relational set-back. We grow and learn differently, we have separate interests.
It is never a healthy alternative to lose our convictions, our boundaries, or our sense of self for the sake of any relationship!
Being accountable for our stuff (thoughts, behaviors, etc) is essential in healthy relating.
We must learn to listen and to respect our loved ones (this no different from our own desires) – it is one of the key elements in healthy relating.
It’s unrealistic to expect the relationship to grow when we’re not growing individually.
Acknowledging our wrongs when we’ve caused pain, demonstrating remorse with a change in behavior helps to repair the broken pieces over time.
Are you examining your relational patterns? What are you learning?
You’re always welcome to share your insights & wisdom.
Wishing you balance & well-being. ~Storm
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I admit it – some things are hard to forget, especially emotionally impacting experiences – whether those moments bring joy or sadness. Yet, some things are not worth retaining in our memory banks.
While I do talk/write about my experience of childhood abuse, and the process of overcoming its impact – I rarely find it useful to talk about the details. Although the memory of the aforementioned is not completely deleted…it’s not worth remembering (re-producing). It no longer has power over my perspective of living and being.
How do we know when something or someone has loss its ability to control our lives? Great question! When we’re no longer defined by it; additionally, we’re not defining anyone else by it either!
Feelings of unworthiness, guilt, negative self-talk, resentment or other are clear examples that we are yet being overruled by some memory/experience that has little to do the well-being of our present state of being.
It is indeed worth remembering when we can work it out – find forgiveness, gain insight, courage & strength…encouraging our personal philosophy for mind, body, spirit transformation.
It may not be easy letting go of unpleasant memories, but it is a worthy venture!
Are you holding on to anything that’s not worth your time or energy?
You’re always welcome to leave your thoughts & insights. Thank you for taking the time to visit Life Through The Storm.
Wishing you balance and well-being. ~Storm
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