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It Goes without Saying…

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It goes without saying – whenever we operate from a perspective of worthlessness, lacking in self-love (self-acceptance) – we’re bound to encounter personal and relational dysfunction. ~Storm

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An Apology…

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An apology is one of the ways that we bring honor & respect to our relationships. It is an acknowledgment of our offenses (intentional or unintentional) , both are an inevitable occurrence as we interact with others. To overlook or disregard the harm that we’ve caused, is nothing short of disrespect.

The building of healthy relating is rarely without challenge. As we learn to be responsible with our words & our behavior – apologizing when needed – we’re better situated for healthier encounters.The language of apology is the language of love, honor, integrity & respect, revealing much about who we are…who we’re not.

In their book The Five Languages of Apology, Dr. Gary Chapman & Dr. Jennifer Thomas share on the various languages of apology. While I do not believe that one should wait for a particular language of apology before one is accepted, it can make a difference. Forgiveness has much to do with the health of one’s own being.

Does anyone in your path need an apology from you?

You’re always welcome to share your insights. Thank you for your visit today.

A genuine apology is followed by a genuine change in behavior. Wishing you balance & well-being. ~Stormie Steele

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Just A Thought…

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The ritual of healthy and unhealthy living exists as long as the individual (s) of such permits its stay. ~Life Through The Storm

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.” ~Proverbs 18:21 (NKJV)

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Healthy Relationships

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Healthy relationships are the consistencies of our intents and efforts – sustained by our attentiveness and commitment. Healthy relationships are neither easy, nor do they just happen. Compatibility plays it part; yet, it alone can not sustain the health of a relationship.

Healthy relationships are the results of individuals who have chosen to live conscious and responsible lives. We each bring our share of stuff…requiring personal accountability.

We each offer a world of unique differences. In healthy relationships, we learn to respect those differences. In part, it is the regard for those differences that create the needed structure for relational balance – mere tolerance is not enough. Numerous lessons are stored in the uniqueness of our differences.

Healthy relating means that we are committed to change as it encourages personal and spiritual growth. We partner in the creation of healthy relationships, offering both our strengths and weaknesses. In…

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Work throughThe Issues…

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One of the ways that we keep dysfunction out of our lives is to examine the patterns within ourselves that have a tendency to cater to such.

What does that mean? It means that it behooves us to work through  the issues that cause us to misinterpret who we are.

We alone are responsible to work through the issues that separate us from peace and ultimately, our healing, ~Stormie Steele

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Relational Health ~Separateness

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As we permit life and our experiences to teach us more about love & of the invaluableness of our self-worth, we learn how significant it is to retain our separateness within all of our relationships.

Experiencing union with others can be wonderful, yet – not at the expense of losing oneself.

Your separateness & mine is priceless! Whenever we trade it in for the sake of any relationship, we misinterpret love & lose ourselves.

Your separateness is Divine – live like you know it…others will follow your lead!

Wishing you balance & well-being. ~Storm

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Relational Health

 

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There’s no question about it, many of us want healthy, respectful and meaningful relationships. We want passion, excitement and a sense of togetherness! We offer the best presentation of who we are when meeting a potential partner – no less warranted as our interaction continues.

The passion that we seek within our relationships can last a life time, it merely burns differently. A simmering fire occurs as we become practitioners of lessons learned. Personal and spiritual development is a constant in healthy relationships.

“A wise man/woman will hear and increase in learning; a man of understanding shall shall acquire wise counsel.” ~Proverbs 1:5 (NASB)

As we adhere to insight, applying its dictates – we bring into our lives an offering that impacts all of our life’s affairs. Without ardent regard for insight and her assistants – counsel, instruction, wisdom, understanding, etc – we bind ourselves and our relationships needlessly into cycles that hinder the very thing that we seek to establish…healthier and meaningful relationships.

Jim (my husband) and I have individual commitments that we adhere to on a daily basis (prayer, meditation, reading of scripture, etc.) – personal accountability. We each examine our thoughts, our beliefs and pay attention to how life impacts our emotions. It is in this way that we’ve learned to separate personal stuff from relational stuff. Additionally, we honor the path that we consider ourselves blessed to have created together. We define our union as a healthy relationship, not a perfect one.

“Counsel in the heart of man/woman is like deep water, but a man/woman of understanding will draw it out.” ~Proverbs 20:5 (KJV)

I am sure that you are very much aware of relational building tips, I’ve included a few more:

Asking our loved ones to alter their convictions or their personal philosophies for our comfort is a set-up for a relational set-back. We grow and learn differently, we have separate interests.

It is never a healthy alternative to lose our convictions, our boundaries, or our sense of self for the sake of any relationship!

Being accountable for our stuff (thoughts, behaviors, etc) is essential in healthy relating.

We must learn to listen and to respect our loved ones (this no different from our own desires) – it is one of the key elements in healthy relating.

It’s unrealistic to expect the relationship to grow when we’re not growing individually.

Acknowledging our wrongs when we’ve caused pain, demonstrating remorse with a change in behavior helps to repair the broken pieces over time.

Are you examining your relational patterns? What are you learning?

You’re always welcome to share your insights & wisdom.

Wishing you balance & well-being. ~Storm

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Something To Consider…

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I think it’s fair to say that many of us share a few basic desires – we want to be loved and respected. Despite this desire, we often endure realities that contradict the aforementioned.

As long as we allow ourselves to accept what we innately know is not in our best interest, we will continue to miss the mark. Additionally, the love and respect that many of us long for is not in the arms of those who belong to someone else. While anyone of us can fall prey to our own vulnerable moments lacking in emotional restraint (unworthy of condoning) – we’re ultimately left with facing ourselves any time we betray ourselves.

Life attempts to prepare us every single day, I believe this. If we are mindful to capture the lessons through our varied experiences, we can find the information that leads us into healthier choices – especially, if we’re willing to authentically examine ourselves.

Taking some needed time to reflect assists us in listening a bit more attentively to what’s happening inside of us.

Invaluable insights often spring forth whenever we set ourselves apart with the intent of gaining insight and perspective on our habits/choices. Along with our intentions…action must follow.

The love and respect that we seek, must first be embraced from within. Be honest with yourself as you examine your feelings, beliefs and emotions regarding all that impacts you. This is always helpful as we seek to move to healthier territory.

It has been said that we can’t help whom we will ultimately love. Whether it’s true or not, every thing that we love is not necessarily the healthiest thing for us, we have choices. You are worthy of taking the time to consider yours…

Thank you for allowing Life Through The Storm to be a healthy part of your day. Wishing you balance and well-being. ~Storm

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